There are no guarantees in life, except death

As I write this final thoughts portion of the monthly Lola Hair and Soul Newsletter I am still feeling the bliss from, what I can only describe as ascension I experienced over the weekend. 

I’ll be completely honest with you, I am totally drunk on the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit! If this is not your jam I totally get it…that was me a little over a year ago. Please feel free to interchange more palatable words that align with your current spiritual universe, higher power, or Howard…whatever you need! 

Being intentional is my jam…hopefully someday I will get to the point it becomes my super power…I have more refining to do before I get to that level though. 

So what does that mean, that I am intentional you might ask. It means that everything I do, I do on purpose with purpose! From the clothes I wear, the words I use, the company I keep, the books I read, the time I spend, and everything and anything in between. 

This lifestyle started in 2015 when I had my biggest breakthrough moment to date…turning the same age my Mother was when she was killed in a car accident. 39 years old…my eyes were wide open, seeing my life for what seemed like the first time and let me tell you, it needed some major repair!

Ever since then, I treat every single day like the gift it is. There are no guarantees in life, except death, so if I am able to see another day…it’s a win!

Things have been tricky at the salon lately, short handed and busier than ever (no complaints) makes for an interesting combination. My husband is also in a tricky season in his job as well. This leaves both of us exhausted with little energy to give to the other. 

Something happened this weekend where my prayers were answered. I have been praying for courage, wisdom, strength, and patience to get through this trying time. I have also been praying for the Holy Spirit to be placed in my husband’s heart. This weekend we shared time together similar to when we were first dating and it was magical. 

I recognized I had been intentional with my time outside of my marriage…but not inside of it. I was taking it for granted. Although we were very understanding of each other’s current circumstances, it left us both feeling lonely. 

This weekend I pledged allegiance to serving my husband and his needs. I planned a wonderful date at home Saturday night, which God was definitely involved in because the weather was perfect for it. A fire, cocktails, snacks, and a cookout paired with wonderful conversation in which we bared our souls to one another. 

We discussed how grateful we are for our life…not because everything is perfect (no way, Jose) but because we choose not to focus on the obstacles but on the wins.

We made the wake up list, we have our health, we are both gainfully employed, we have food in our refrigerator, running water, transportation, the ability to read, count, walk, talk, see, touch, and most importantly give and receive love. Our blessings are so plentiful our cups runneth over. Which is why I share this with you…please hold out your cups so I can fill yours!

If you are a human being you are most likely experiencing some challenges in life right now. I encourage you to put your blinders on and focus only on the blessings in your life. If you are reading this right now you are alive and have an ability that 32 million other U.S. adults do not have (the ability to read). There are 2 things to start with. 

What are you thankful for? How can you serve your partner? Serve your partner in the way they best love to be served (what is their love language)…I promise, if you fill their love tank they will reciprocate. 

Let’s get back to a world of gratitude. Put your blinders on folks…turn off the news, put down your phones (after reading this of course, haha), focus on the person in front of you…serve them and their needs…do this and I promise, God, the universe, a higher power, or Howard…whoever your deity is…will make sure you are taken care of!